If you’re a Daddy to an adult baby boy, the task can seem daunting: first, you need to unpotty train him. Then, you need to slowly replace all of the adult things in his life. You need to get him used to the sleepers and onesies, the cribs and high chairs.
Your goal? To help him forget about his adult side. To regress him to his ‘true state’: a baby boy who needs his daddy.
But is that the real goal?
I was thinking about this again based on a question in the ABDL Discord from Theo:
As age players, how do we hold onto that sense of childhood while integrating into adult life in a healthy manner?
How Little Should a Little Be?
I’ve had lots of little ones reach out to me. And often, especially when they’ve never had face-to-face experiences with other ABDLs, big bros or Daddies, they express a dream of regression.
They want to live a life where they are regressed to ‘babyhood’. They want to sleep in a crib, be fed in a high chair, wear diapers 24/7, be put in a playpen during the day and given a bath at night.
As a Daddy, I love the idea! I love the idea of being able to care for a little one and create a fully encompassing space where he can explore what it means to be little, obedient, vulnerable and protected.
I want him to learn to use his diapers without thinking. I want his diapers to be a constant reminder that there is a side to him that he needs to embrace, a symbol of his little side, a crinkly reminder that he accepts that he is better off being cared for by others.
Finding Balance
I don’t want anyone to think that full-time babyhood isn’t a wonderful dream!
A Daddy’s job, however, is more complicated: it’s to help a little one find the right balance between his “little” and “bigger” sides.
No, he’ll never be “big”. He might LOOK that way to the rest of the world: to family or at work, in school or with certain groups of friends.
How much he wants to bring his little side into these environments is a choice. A Daddy shouldn’t make those choices for him. He can encourage, listen, help him think through consequences. But at the end of the day, a baby boy needs to decide (for example) how open he wants to be with family or in class.
What a Daddy CAN do is help to ease the transitions. After a hard day at school, Daddy can help him slowly ‘shake off’ all of the stresses and energies: give a hug, a bath, and get him changed into a clean diaper and cute onesie.
Being a Baby
Not every little one has a Daddy. And so this struggle to feel “little” can be difficult!
What happens when life gets too busy? What happens when all of the stress at school makes you feel like you can’t get into “little space”? Does it mean you’re turning into…*gasp*…an adult?
I like to remind little ones that they have a secret super power. And just like any superhero, they don’t need to show their powers all the time!
Superman is a better Superman in part because of his time as Clark Kent: learning what it’s like when the rest of the world sees you as “normal”, but secretly knowing that at anytime you can rip off your clothes and show the onesie and diaper hidden underneath!
Time away from being little can be important and can actually refresh your creativity!
But I also think it’s important to have a support system: friends, big brothers, little brothers….people who you can share with. Who you can tell that you’ve been too busy, too stressed out, too anxious.
They can help remind you that even when you’re going through very adult stuff that deep inside you’re still a wonderful little boy who needs diapers, who needs all of those creative, expressive and wonderful things which make adult baby and diaper boys such a gift to the world.
There will always be some part of you which is a baby or little boy. It’s a gift. Cherish it and protect it: whether you’re a little one or a Daddy.
This subject makes me think of something I’ve wanted to talk about and get off my chest.
I know a lot of littles and adult babies enjoy the fantasy of a daddy or big regressing them (sometimes slowly without the little even knowing, other times through more forceful means) until they are just a baby with no adult responsibilities at all. The appeal of this fantasy isn’t lost to me but as an overthinker it also sounds kinda awful.
I may be a little but I’m also an adult. I have aspirations and life goals that I want to achieve that are outside of all this. There’s a dream job that I hope to get someday. A lot of the hobbies that bring me joy and fulfilment are those of a “bigger” nature. Without these thing I’d probably just end up super depressed.
I know that when others talk about things like this, it’s just fantasising and escapism and that no one is gonna do any forced regression on me (I hope so at least) but… I dunno. I guess I just needed so get these feeling out there somewhere, even if they are stupid and not something to actually worry about. I blame my anxiety hehe.
Well said! And I write about this a lot, as you probably know: that there’s still an A in ABDL. You really CAN’T leave adulthood behind, and it’s unhealthy to do so. Besides – do you really wanna give up your Switch/PS4? I think it’s healthy to worry that there are expectations otherwise. But I also think that ‘offline’ people are more realistic about what to expect from ‘regression’.
This is so cool I wanna be like it all the time it’s all I think about 24/7 I want to be treated like a baby and have no responsibility at all and to be put to be washed and fed and just play with toys and sleep in a cot at night and to be read stories at night for bedtime so cool I wanna join how ❤️
This is like the third post I’ve come across by abdl daddy and I got to say thank you. Your post are educational and well spoken. I have a friend who recently got into the scene and he is a daddy. Having never been one before he was nervous. But your post helped him to feel more comfortable in his role. So thank you for that
Thank you so much for that 🙂
How do I become a daddy to a little?
It depends what you mean by “how”. If the question is where to find a little, there are hundreds of them looking for a Daddy! Instagram, Twitter, Diaper-bois and other sites are good places to start.
If you mean how to act, what to do – please read this blog 🙂 There are lots of tips and ideas for how to create a relationship with your little boy.
If you have specific questions, feel free to ask!
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