How does an adult baby boy meet his Daddy? Is it possible for caregivers to connect and create meaningful relationships with their own ‘littles’ or DLs?
I first started this blog in 2010. It sure was a different time!
I was reading through some old posts about ‘how to meet a daddy‘ and noticed mention of sites like RUPadded – sites that have long since disappeared, only to be replaced by Tumblr or Snapchat, Mastadon or Twitter.
ABDL has gone mainstream!
At one time, it was difficult to find photos for this site – I actually had to create them.
I had a few volunteers who sent me photos. MiniMaxKiddo was one of them – but he insisted I not show his face! Now, he’s probably one of the most ‘famous’ ABs on the Internet, proud of being an ABDL and proud to share that with the world.
The willingness of members of the community to share a bit more publicly has also, I think, brought wider acceptance of ABDL as a healthy kink and lifestyle.
It has helped newcomers who may be struggling with their ABDL desires to see that there are others out there just like them, and to create connections and friendships as they explore this world.
The More Things Change
I started this blog because I found it difficult, back in 2010, to find resources or articles that explained what it meant to be an ABDL ‘daddy’. I was hoping that by starting this blog that others would share their own experiences so that I could learn from others.
2.5 million page views later I had been introduced to something even better: a global community of like-minded adults who shared a belief that ABDL experiences could be focused on caring, nurturing and positive self-image and acceptance.
I discovered that there were others who believed that whether you’re a ‘daddy’ or a little one, we often share a common desire to create safe spaces and relationships, and to allow ourselves the joy of caring for each other (or being cared for).
That hasn’t changed in all these years. But what has changed are the platforms and media we use to connect with each other.
From Online to Off
The recent adult content ban on Tumblr reminded us that our online communities can sometimes feel fragile. That online connections can be ephemeral. And that we need to keep an eye on the ‘real world’ if we don’t want to lose those warm fuzzy feelings that we often first experience online.
Most of us first discover other like-minded people online. Maybe we lurk and browse, check out stories or photos, and then maybe reach out to chat with others.
It’s rare that someone’s first ABDL experience is at a local munch or fetish night! (Although I like to think that ‘real world’ events are starting to introduce newcomers to the cause!)
But eventually we all want to meet. To create at least one connection in the ‘real world’, to change our first diaper (if you’re a daddy) or have our diaper changed (if you’re a little one).
And perhaps that’s the most astonishing thing about the way the world has changed since this blog was started: it’s not that the online experience has changed, it’s that the number of opportunities to meet in the ‘real world’ keep on expanding!
Offline Is The New Tumblr
No, I don’t mean that it’s infested with porn and bad memes.
But community has shifted over the years. Where once we connected mostly through online forums and meeting a few people locally, there are now more options to meet in person.
Will you meet a daddy? Or if you’re a daddy, will your ideal ‘little’ be there, diaper wet and ready for a change?
Maybe. Or maybe you’ll meet new friends, extend relationships that you started online, or find that you’re not alone in this amazing world of little ones and caregivers.
Sure, things have changed a lot online. But the community has grown larger and stronger, there are more opportunities to meet in person, and through those changes we can each find that acceptance begins and ends with how we treat each other, whether offline or on.
What Do You Think?
Have you met others in ‘real life’? What was your first time like? How have things changed online (for better or worse!). I’d love to hear how you think things have changed over the years!