You’ve been invited over to friends for dinner or a house party. Thinking about the night ahead, you check in to find the adult baby in your life still having his nap, holding his plushy and gently sucking on his paci.
While your friends know that you have someone special in your life, they might not understand that your relationship is beyond what you ever dreamed: you have a little boy and you feel like the luckiest person in the world that he needs you as his ‘daddy’.
You have always respected and loved all the sides of your little tyke: both the “A” and the “B” side of your ‘adult baby’.
But as your relationship has grown, he has become gentler, happier, and more secure: he seems to feel safe in knowing that he’s daddy’s little boy and a big part of that is needing his diapers.
As you prepare for the night ahead you lay his clothes out, picturing immediately what a handsome little guy he’ll be, and then consider whether to add a diaper to his evening outfit.
Diaper Time for the “Big” World
I’m a big believer that creating a safe space between a daddy and his little guy is the most important way for a him to feel OK to express who he is inside: a little boy who wets and needs his daddy to keep him in diapers.
Extending the safe space outside the home can mean taking him to a movie or shopping, to a quiet park or to the zoo.
But there will still come a time when daddy needs to make a decision: is it OK to keep him in diapers for a night out with friends? What are the boundaries for deciding it’s better that he be diapered?
It can be a big step when you diaper him for a social situation or an event in the ‘big world’.
Diapers Under Jeans, and Your Handsome Little Boy
There’s something very special to me about dressing a little guy for a ‘night out’ with friends.
A nice dress shirt with jeans, a casual polo top with a pair of khaki pants, or something trendy – maybe the rest of the world sees a “guy” but a daddy will see a handsome little boy all spiffy and well-groomed (and hopefully well behaved!)
But it’s the moment when you pull his pants up over his clean diaper that a daddy will feel a special sense of love and bonding with his ‘son’….knowing that even though you’re headed out into a more adult space he’s still your diapered little tyke.
Signals and Caring
As the night progresses, it might seem like all ‘daddy/son’ thoughts have taken a back seat to hanging out with friends, laughing, and talking.
The truth is, however, that there are subtle little signals that you’ll pick up.
You might place a hand on his shoulder, and his body will relax a little. You might adjust the collar of his shirt, and he’ll blush like a little boy who wants to be ‘big’ for his daddy but will never fully be able to.
Just before you arrive, you give his bum a little pat and you almost need to hold his hand to stop him from automatically sucking his thumb.
You might see the sort of gaze he gets in his eyes and know that he’s wetting his diaper – if you’re able, muss his hair a little or lean over and give him a little kiss, he’ll suddenly be aware that daddy knows he really does need his diapers and that daddy can tell when he wets.
All of these little signals and moments will give your little guy confidence that while daddy knows that he is diapered under his jeans, others don’t know – and that even if they do, he is in the safe circle of his daddy’s care.
Unconditional Love, and Unconditional Diapers?
Over time, his sense of acceptance and love might even give him the confidence to confide in others – but only after discussion with daddy, and only once the two of you can be assured that others will feel like their own boundaries have been respected.
Through it all, remember that while he’s a little boy, that while he’s your diapered baby, he is able to feel safe and loved unconditionally because he has a daddy. As you strengthen his sense of self, you will find that the circle of care you have created grows wider to embrace a larger world.
But your little guy needs to be free to express himself to: so what situations would you be OK in a diaper for daddy? Are there situations that would still make you nervous?