You come home and daddy meets you at the door. He unties your shoes and takes them off, and then helps you out of your jacket. After a big hug and a kiss on your cheek he tells you that there are cookies in the kitchen – a special treat for his little guy after a long day.
You troop to the kitchen. Your goal is the plate of cookies that daddy has set out for you but you stop short – because next to the table you see a high chair that’s the perfect size for a little boy like you.
You feel a little flutter in your tummy and you turn to see a big smile on daddy’s face.
You’re not sure what to say and you feel a funny emotion building up inside and all you can do is go and give daddy a big hug.
Something feels really special but it’s hard to put into words. You have your very own high chair, and its presence tells you that daddy accepts you as the little boy that you are, and that meal times from now on will be another way to feel safe and cared for as daddy’s baby boy.
Big Meaning for a Little Boy
There are lots of ways to help the adult baby or little boy feel comfortable in expressing who he is. Keeping your little guy in diapers is just one way that you’re expressing your acceptance.
Being a daddy to an AB isn’t just about things. It isn’t about diapers or onesies or toys as much as it is about creating feelings of safety, acceptance and trust. It’s about love, cuddles and quiet moments holding your little boy so that he can sense how special he is to you.
But there are a few things which that can express a lot to a little boy. It might be a special plushy that you buy him and name together, it’s the crib he sleeps in….and it might be the high chair that you bought him for meal times.
They are symbols, in a way, of the permanence of your baby boy in your life and heart.
When he sees his very own high chair in the kitchen or by the dining table, he’ll understand that being your little boy isn’t something that’s temporary.
High Chair Time
Putting an adult baby into his high chair helps him to know that daddy is there to take care of him.
The feeling of the straps being snapped in place and the tray being brought down in front of him will give him a sense of security. As you tie his bib, he’ll know that he really is a baby boy who has his daddy there to look after him at meal times.
Whether you feed your little guy or laugh as he dribbles food down his chin as he tries to feed himself, you’ll be sharing a special moment of joy.
Over time, the high chair will start to represent a sort of safe island – in it, he’ll feel in touch with who he is inside.
After you wipe his messy face and hands and help him out of his high chair, you’ll give your baby boy a hug before you lead him to the change table for a clean diaper.
You’ll have shared another moment with your son and will only hope that there are more ways you can show him how much it means to you that he’s such a special baby boy.
Update: Todd sent some photos of his very special high chair – check the gallery below! If you have photos you’d like to share of your high chair, send them to me by e-mail and I’ll add them.