When you think of caring for an adult baby or little boy, you often imagine all of the activities – playing with toy cars, watching a cartoon together, feeding him in his high chair, or taking him to the park to play on the swings.
All of those activities help a little guy to feel safe in expressing who he is inside: a baby boy who simply wants to express himself. As a daddy, you can create those zones of trust and care through play time or story time, bath time or all the other times of adventure and being together.
But you shouldn’t underestimate the power of letting your little guy have quiet time.
An AB/LB often feels like he’s in a warm space with daddy, but he’ll also feel a lot of emotions and tenderness.
Quiet time gives him a gentle place to process feelings he may not have names for, and to allow himself to float in the awareness that he’s daddy’s baby boy and he’s safe just being himself.
Letting Your Little One Have Quiet Times
Quiet time can take a number of different forms.
Afternoon nap time is a must, and should be at the same time each day. The structure of the nap should be part of the daily routine: routines and rituals provide a sense of safety, predictability.
Whether he sleeps or not, a quiet hour or so in his crib with his favorite stuffed toys helps to center your little guy and give him a place where he feels safe in being under your care.
Not every daddy will have a playpen, but they can also be perfect for giving him some quiet time. You’ll notice him playing with his toys, of course, but you’ll also notice him slow down and just sort of get lost in moments with himself – again, creating a feeling of safety in just being the little boy he truly is inside.
But just because you’re giving your little guy some quiet time alone, doesn’t mean he shouldn’t feel like you’re not watching over him.
He’s probably spent lots of time alone as an AB until he met his daddy, and one of the things you can provide him is that sense that even in his crib, daddy has one ear turned to the baby monitor, or one eye turned to the playpen as you prepare his dinner maybe or get a bottle ready.
Daddy and son have lots of activities and joy together, but giving him some quiet time while knowing that daddy is always nearby can give him peaceful moments in the day that go a long way to making all the rest of your connection together more special.