You knew the day was coming and you were excited about it the whole week – the new Disney movie is out and daddy promised to take you. He got you diapered, dressed in your favorite overalls with a cartoon shirt underneath, and although others might not think of you as a little boy to look at you, you sure feel like one!
Going out with daddy always fills you with a mixture of excitement and a bit of fear. Strange people, different places, and not being sure whether it’s OK to just be yourself. But you’ve been jumping with excitement all week, and no matter what little anxieties you might have, you can’t wait for the big adventure.
But before you head out the door, daddy heads to your nursery and returns with a diaper bag slung over his shoulder. To others, it might just look like a practical carrying bag, but the cartoon character on the side definitely tells you that daddy has all the things that a little boy will need.
Outings with the Adult Baby
As a daddy to an adult baby or ‘little boy’, it’s important to realize the many ways in which you can demonstrate your acceptance and care for who he is. While the world might see an ‘adult’, you’re taking care of a little boy – and you need to remind him that no matter what the circumstance you’re there to care for him and create a circle of trust and safety.
There’s something special in the bond between a daddy and adult baby – some of it is in the subtle ways in which you communicate that connection to each other. Bright shoes with velcro straps, a diaper bag with a subtle pattern, or the crinkle and bulge of his diaper under his pants are all things that you know affirm his identity but which won’t necessarily be signals that others pick up on.
While you should always be proud of your little guy, sometimes it’s the subtle signals that others don’t notice that create your special connection.
The little quick pat on his diapered bum as you wait in line for tickets at the movie, the way you adjust the straps on his overalls, or how you tousle his hair a little or wipe a piece of popcorn from his cheek are small gestures that go a long way to making him feel happy, safe and secure.
The Diaper Bag
Being prepared is another way – having a diaper bag with you sends a signal to your little guy that daddy is ready for the demands of a baby boy.
But different boys will need different things. There are a few essentials of course, but what you put in his diaper bag will depend on him.
You’ll need diapers of course – just because he’s out of the house doesn’t mean his diapers will stay dry or clean! Ideally, of course, your boy wears his diapers 24/7 – he needs them afterall! Powder, lotions, some good wipes (baby wipes are great, but Tena also makes a super-sized wipe for adults that’s awesome), and a few diapers are must-haves.
But depending on your son, you might be filling out the diaper bag with different things:
– Favorite toys or plushies
– Pacis or even a bottle – it depends where you’re going and what your plans for the day might be
– A book or two if you’re going somewhere like the park
– Food – both the healthy stuff and the fun stuff – gummy bears, say, for the movie
Little boys will need more distractions while the baby boy in your life might need things that are more comforting. A blanky, favorite stuffed animal and paci can all be soothing in strange situations.
But what would YOU want daddy to make sure he put in your diaper bag?
(And before I go – a special thanks to Little Maya for the above photo – pictures of her with HER plushy coming soon!)