Is it best to keep an adult baby in diapers, or does the occasional attempt at potty training make sense? Are there times when caring for a boy feels more like having a little boy in the house, or will he always be your diapered toddler?
Sometimes life will have its own surprises. It has for me these past few months, and it reminds me of how it’s sometimes difficult to focus the attention you know you should or wish for, and that even though your little guy is everything in the world there are still times when other priorities compete.
But in some ways, these can be good ways to deepen the bond between a daddy and son, although the pain of separation can often damage the safe space you’ve created. If you’re lucky enough to have your little guy with you in your home things can be a lot easier than at a distance. You have a special bond and the trust that comes from seeing each other, and the ways in which you care for a little guy can shift slightly to reflect the broader things happening in your lives.
One of the joys of caring for an adult baby is that, of course, he’s an adult. He may have his own responsibilities, family concerns, or special things that need his attention. So you should be aware that he will need different kinds of care and attention at different times, but that none of this changes the fact that you’re his daddy.
One of the ways you can express your respect for who he is and the different things that happen in life is by giving him a chance to be a “big boy”. This doesn’t mean treating him as an adult, of course.
Night Time for Your Little Tyke
It’s bed time. And he knows the routine: a bath, brushing his teeth, and getting changed by daddy for bed.
Usually this means the change table and a nice thick diaper followed by a snuggly sleeper. But tonight daddy wraps you in a towel after your bath and leads you to your room. Instead of patting his hand on the change table, however, he tells you to sit on the bed.
When he returns from the diaper shelves, he has a Goodnite in his hands rather than the diaper you’re used to seeing. You gulp a little and feel a little worried, but there’s a funny feeling in your tummy – what does it mean that daddy is putting you in a ‘training pant’ for sleepy time instead of a diaper?
He helps you shimmy into the Goodnite. It isn’t as thick but there’s still a reassuring padding. After he slips you into a pair of cartoon pajamas, you feel more like a big toddler rather than a little one, and something inside you feels anxious that you disappointed daddy or that you might.
But he reassures you, rubbing your back gently as he sits beside you.
He tells you that life has been different lately, and busy, but that he’s proud of his little boy. He says that to show you how proud he is, he’s putting you in your Goodnites because he wants you to know how much daddy loves you and appreciates you and knows what a tough little soldier you’ve been through everything.
As he tucks you in, you feel uncertain. You feel proud of how you and daddy have a special bond with each other, but you wonder if things are changing somehow.
For the adult baby, a move from diapers to training pants or Goodnites is a paradox of sorts: it’s an expression of understanding between daddy and son that life changes and that you’re always there for each other, but it provides less feeling of security than his diapers.
But for the daddy to an adult baby or little boy this paradox is important: because if you’ve been caring for your little guy for a while, it’s almost certain that even if he tries, he won’t be able to stay dry for long.
As a boy gets used to being in diapers they become more natural. Some may even start wetting their diapers while they sleep, or not remember wetting before they drifted off to sleep.
When you put your boy in Goodnites, you’re sending a subtle signal that you are happy that he’s mature enough to understand the different pressures you’re facing in life, but when he wakes up with a wet one in the morning he’ll remember that he’s still a little boy, and still needs his daddy to keep him in protection.
In fact, the shift back to diapers after a period of potty training or training diapers can be an important bonding moment between you and your little boy. Because at the end of the day, no matter what happens, he’s still your baby, and when you tape him up in a diaper once again he’ll be reminded that he has a constant in his life which is your care and understanding.
17 Replies to “From Bedwetting Back to Diapers for the Adult Baby”
You make the best stuff I can’t write even close to this good
So kool! Thanks,I really like my cushies,bambino’s adult(pampers)being a toddler,it or they make me feel secure!
I know if I tried to stay dry in a Pull up I would not be able to.. Safer for me to be in diapers.. but its a great story. 🙂
I’m always so disappointed when I reach the end of one of your posts. I wish it could just go on and on forever…
Btw, first new post in awhile.
Daddy, I’m so happy to see that you’re back and posting new blogs. I’ve missed “hearing your voice” so much and can imagine, based on this post, that your life has been really busy. I hope we can pick up where we left off and continue our conversations in hopes of one day being Daddy and little boy in real life, rather than just over the internet.
As always, this post made me shiver with the reality that there is a Daddy out there that can love me and appreciate me for who I am.
you are a very wonderfull person and Daddy . i look for your posts everyday, and would become your baby forever anytime you wanted . xoxoxo baby jonjon
Thank you for your insightful column. You understand the feelings of little guys like me so well.
hugs to you.
hmm… part of me is having a tantrum, screaming for my diapers and the other part of me can appreciate the beauty of the experience.
I love the way you are able to reflect the mind of us little guys. You are right, I would wonder what was going on if I was put into a pull-up instead of pinned into my thick diapers and securely in my baby pants. i might feel daddy is too busy or I did something wrong. But then daddy’s reaction to the inevitable wet morning would absolutely reassure me.
hugs to you.
Hi, I am the anonymous from above. I am sorry I did not put my name when I posted.
hugs to all
Id be scared too if i had a daddy and he did it to me. I dont know why but were i live its a dead zone, no mommys or daddys near were i live there like hard to find.
But ive found other ab/Dl’s In beaverton.
Don’t feel bad There do not seem to be any Daddy’s or Mommies in Colorado either. 🙁
Welcome back Daddy! Nice to see some new posts on great topics with a wonderful perspective. So refreshing to read the Daddy point of view. I do know a Daddy does need to try potty training his boy once in a while and I think it is a good thing. It reinforces the boys feelings for Daddy and his care he gives, reinforces his need for diapers as he will ultimately wet his goodnights and soak his jammies, bed or pants and reinforce his position as a boy in diapers. I know a goodnight would not even make a dent in my flow at night…lol. I could make do with one during the day but never at night. Huggies and Luvs to all!
dear daddy i wood love to be your baby boy but i wood be the tipe of baby that dosenot want to be pottytrain i wood like to stay in diapers 24/7 love babyf
tambien me encantan los goodnites
I would feel that daddy is bringing me into the adult world and is going to send me off on my own. I not like dat so i not ever want to be in goodnite’s and if daddy ever does put me in them i going to cry and think he not love me any more.