There’s something wonderfully vulnerable about an adult baby.
He’s not an adult who has a ‘baby side’ or who plays a role. He’s an adult whose purest sense of inner self and outer expression is as a toddler, little boy or AB.
When I see or chat with an adult baby, I know that I can talk about all the things that an adult might be interested in, but I never find myself thinking: “he’s an adult”. An adult baby has discovered that he is most at home in his own feelings and needs when he can express all of the amazing ways in which he’s a little one.
But admitting these feelings opens up a sense of vulnerability: because to most of the world, he’s an adult, while inside he needs the care, love, attention and trust that can only come from someone who understands who he is.
Maybe he can forget it for a while as he goes about his daily life. He can talk and act like an adult, be accepted for that, and feel a part of the world around him.
But most ABs I know need, at the very least, a safe place to return to, a time to express themselves, and feel the most relaxed when they’re dressed in a way that is more natural to them (a sleeper say, or shortalls), are properly diapered, and have their teddy bear snuggly in their arms.
When your little one comes home (or visits you for the weekend) he may still be carrying the feelings of the wider world. There’s NO on/off switch for an AB. He doesn’t flip from being an adult to being a baby – instead, he finds himself in situations where his inner self is able to more fully and honestly be expressed.
As a daddy to an AB, you can help create a circle of trust and care to allow him to feel at home and safe in his feelings.
This is done through words and attention, but the joy of caring for an AB is that you can also do so with physical, tangible things.
First, of course, is to keep your little guy diapered. He needs his diapers, of course, so that there are no accidents – but he also needs them to understand how much you honor and cherish who he is.
A Space for Baby
Another tangible thing that will help your little one to feel safe and secure is the care you put into making sure that you have a proper physical space. Ideally, it’s a nursery, but sometimes it might be nothing more than a corner of the living room, a closet with his baby clothes and supplies, or even just a shelf by the bed where you keep his plushys and changing supplies.
Having a distinct physical space communicates that there is a permanence to the fact that he’s in daddy’s care….even if that care is only for an evening or weekend if you’re at a distance from your baby boy.
If you live at a distance, think about sending him a photo now and then of his “special place”. Maybe you buy him a new pacifier and add it to his permanent baby shelf – send him a photo and he’ll be excited about both the pacifier and he’ll be reminded that being daddy’s little boy always has a special space.
Scents in the Nursery
With luck, of course, your little tyke lives with his daddy. Having a room to set aside as a nursery set is ideal.
And one of the advantages of this is that each time he enters it, he’ll feel at home, he’ll get a warm little rush in his tummy, and he’ll inhale those special scents that are an emblem that he’s his daddy’s baby boy.
Imagine your little boy gets home, you give him a hug, and even though he’s excited to be home where he can be himself, it’s not until you take him to his nursery for a diaper change that the safe feeling truly returns. He smells those wonderful scents of the nursery even before he’s put on his change table and they remind him that he’s a baby boy:
Powders: The scent of baby powder is, for many ABs, something that can easily trigger those special feelings. The scent during a change can leave him cooing and gurgling, and it lingers in the air, giving the nursery a fresh babyish feel.
Lotions and Oils: The same with baby lotions and oils. I think of them as ‘layering’ that freshly diapered scent. The scent of baby lotion can linger on the skin long after that of powder, as well, and every time you snuggle your little boy you’ll be reminded as well of the special boy in your life.
Diapers: Not all diapers have a pronounced scent, but even if you don’t use them it’s useful to have brands with a distinct diaper scent on his shelves. Some adult brands like Bambinos come with the option of being scented, which I recommend, especially for time around the house.
Plastic Pants: There’s a distinct scent to nylon or plastic pants. One of the best, for example, are Tiger Underwear’s plastic step-ins. They have a distinct scent that’s perfect for an AB and are excellent over a nice thick diaper.
The Diaper Pail: Some people might not think that the diaper pail is important and while it needs to be emptied reasonably often, it also is a reminder to your little guy that he needs his diapers for a reason. There’s a distinct scent to his wet diapers which are the sign that you really do have a baby boy around the house who needs to be in diapers.
There are other scents as well. Some of them specific to your little guy – that special cuddly scent of a fuzzy stuffed animal, or the smell of the plastic lining in his playpen.
All of these scents and sensations are simply signs that you care for your little guy and that his being an AB is as much apart of your life as the air you breathe.
But what scents and smells do you associate with an adult baby? And what’s your favorite?
17 Replies to “Scents in the Adult Baby Nursery”
I like how you worded this part:
“There’s NO on/off switch for an AB….he finds himself in situations where his inner self is able to more fully and honestly be expressed.”
Certainly there is a time and place for everything, but sometimes having to suppress my childishness in grown up settings can be a bummer heh 😛
The aromas of creamy foods (like mac & cheese) and baked goods (like Pop-Tarts in the toaster) usually help trigger childhood memories and feelings.
I love the smell of pissy plastic pants, pissy diapers, powder and all of it mixed together. It really makes me feel like a little diaper boy. Scent is so important. I wish I had a pacifier the size of that one in the boys pic on this article. Anyone know where I can get one like that? email me at email@example.com if you do.
Mine is Baby Powder and I guess alittle bit of Wet diaper.^^
I am a toddler boy in utah who needs a daddy!can anyone help me!in pampers almost 24/7.
For me it’s the smell of plastic pants drying in the bedroom and the constant powder smell in the room. The diaper pail is most important too, you can leave it open and it will make the room smell like a diaper palace.
you always have a way of saying things that captures what is certainly real for this ab:
“But most ABs I know need, at the very least, a safe place to return to, a time to express themselves, and feel the most relaxed when they’re dressed in a way that is more natural to them (a sleeper say, or shortalls), are properly diapered, and have their teddy bear snuggly in their arms.”
j&j baby powder and baby lotion are the top two scents that trigger my most babyish feelings. and even the combined scent of baby powder and a wet diaper somehow activates my most babyish behaviors.
the other night daddy put a little baby lotion on his finger and rubbed it right under my nose during my diapering so i could smell it every time i inhaled…and a little babytalk gurgle escaped my lips before i knew what happened…almost as if beyond my control. the combination of how i was being treated combined with the scents of babyhood had triggered my most special feelings.
No matter what you write its always amazing, you understand perfictly.
Mine is my stuffed monkey, baby powder, and my pee pee diapers.
My Daddy tells me that, after I have visited, the nursery has a strong smell of Johnson’s Baby Powder, with just a slight gentle hint of poo. He says that is the authentic nursery smell.
The smell of home suprisingly. Pumpkinspice. Crayola.mr bubbles. Frootloops.
Im weird i know lol
Oh oh oh oh and cookies the smell of cookies!
“There’s NO on/off switch for an AB. He doesn’t flip from being an adult to being a baby – instead, he finds himself in situations where his inner self is able to more fully and honestly be expressed.”
I loved this line and it speaks absolute truth. I don’t have a daddy of my own, however there is something about a good daddy (or mommy) who starts out by talking to you as a little one and slowly brings you into the mood. Baby powder, lotions and some seasonal spices really set the mood as well. Cookies will immediately bring my little side out.
The most arresting little boy smells for me are:
My piss-stained bed
The diaper pail
Daddy’s grown up man smell
The aroma of his leather belt
I like the scent of Powder, J&J Baby lotion or Baby Magic sometimes too, Desitin, the light scent of the diaper pail and Scenters, baby scented wipes, and baby wash after a bath. It really makes you feel like a REAL baby (AB) with all the right scents in your room or nursery. It triggers so many feelings. I really miss the scent of the original Pampers the way they used to smell.
My favorites are the open diaper pail and my room smells like baby powder and wet diapers. I also like when my wet nitetime plastic baby pants are drying out in the morning. We hang them on my bed safety rail. If they drip on my sheet its ok cause it dries by nitetime and that smells nice too. I was wearing goodnites to potty train in the day but we decided its still not time yet cause they were wet a lot so I get to wear my pin on cloth diapers in the daytime again – YAAYYY! ! They feel better than the scrachy goodnites anyway and I kind of missed getting them pinned up nice and snug. Daddy says my room smells just right for his little guy and hes so proud of me for using my diapers.
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hello. i just wanted to say that the picture at the top of this page is actually me 😛 couldn’t believe it when i saw it. all i did was type ‘adult baby’ into bing. the background has been photoshopped and it looks okay. but it used to be my bedroom which sadly didn’t have a crib. may i ask where you got it from? i don’t mind at all, in fact i’m flattered if anything.