I can be absent-minded sometimes. No, I don’t forget when it’s an adult baby’s nap time or to check their diapers – but sometimes I order something online and forget about it until it arrives.
I can’t help thinking that maybe that’s a more ‘daddy’-type thing to do. I half suspect that when an AB orders something he’ll stand by the front door waiting for the mail from the minute he (or his daddy) clicks “buy”. For myself, I suppose I take an attitude of “it gets here when it gets here” and am pleasantly surprised when something arrives which I had half-forgotten I ordered.
Today’s delivery was a collection of vintage Attends – two different kinds from two different eras. One was packaged in a cardboard box with the phrase “MAJOR bladder and bowel control protection” emblazoned across the top, and the other in blue plastic packaging with just the name and the size.
The other night in the chat room for this site, some of the little ones were talking about favorite diapers. I’m also often asked if I have a preference. My feeling about diaper brands is that they’re very dependent on the ‘son’ you’re babying or caring for.
Maybe he’s a little boy who has accidents and needs Goodnites or other ‘lighter’ protection. Maybe he needs thick layers of cloth and plastic pants for a few hours in the playpen.
For a dad, a diaper is all about security, and provides a tangible way to express your care and love.
I can’t help feeling that when you’re looking after an adult baby, the brand of diaper, the style, or thickness can be important at first because it helps to evoke feelings and sensations, but that over time if you’re doing your job as a daddy, the style of diaper will become less important than the care, trust, guidance and love you’re able to give your little guy, no matter what kind of diaper you’re putting him in.
For an adult baby a diaper can trigger very specific feelings, and are important ways in which he can feel like he’s safe to express his inner self. If he associates certain memories and feelings with, say, Goodnites from the mid-90s, then wearing them or something similar will help him to be more in touch with that side of himself.
Now, I suppose as a dad, I DO have memories of my own – and seeing as Attends were the first brand I used when diapering someone, there will always be fond memories evoked from the packaging or style of diaper. More specifically, the older Attends had a type of plastic cover which I wish there was more of in today’s brands: it had a very slick sort of plastic that somehow felt more secure, and which also caused the diapers to crinkle very noticeably, even under clothes.
But I’m always curious to understand what types of diapers a little guy likes. It’s a little window into his personality, memories and dreams. And I’m sure you have preferences as well, and I’m happy if you’d share.