For the diaper lover or adult baby the security of their diaper must come from a lot of things. The feeling that they have ‘protection’, that maybe there’s someone to care for them, feelings of both dependence (on a caretaker) and independence (from that awful potty).
But for a daddy, one thing I’m never quite sure about is why a little boy often seems just as happy in a wet diaper as a dry one.
I suppose I’ll chalk it up to a baby boy not really knowing the difference. And yet, I can’t help notice the little blush he gets and how his body seems to curl up a little when he wets. His head often nods down shyly, or he’ll go suddenly quiet and maybe start sucking his thumb.
Wearing Diapers and Natural Wetting
For some adult babies, I guess the experience of wetting is a release – maybe there’s some concentration at using his diaper like a good little boy should, and when he finally feels that little tingle there’s a sort of satisfaction.
For others, maybe using the diaper is more natural (or maybe he needs diapers for medical or other reasons). In those cases, he might still need to concentrate a little but it moves to the back of his mind and becomes an almost semi-conscious act.
Now, I don’t think there’s any “ideal”. But I can’t help feeling that some ABs might like to get to the point where they wear diapers fairly often and wetting becomes natural and sub-conscious. Whether an AB wants their daddy to help them get to that point depends on the person.
Knowing When You’re Wet
So, depending on the circumstances, a little guy will either be aware he’s wetting or not. But regardless, at some point he feels the spreading warmth as he wets, even if it’s only for a bit as his thick diaper absorbs the liquid. In the case of day diapers, trainer pants or (heaven forbid) undies, the feeling will become even more pronounced.
But what is it about what happens after? Because often a boy seems to enjoy being in his wet diaper.
When daddy asks “Do you need a change?” to a toddler or little boy and he shakes his head “No” in a certain way, it often turns out that when you go to check his diaper is pretty damp if not soaked.
It’s only when his diaper is almost soggy enough to reach his ankles that he’ll nod “yes” (and daddy will feel guilty that he didn’t check him more often!)
So …I may not know why, but what I do know is that for daddy, regular diaper checks are pretty much the rule of thumb because you can’t always rely on your little one to come and tug at your arm and say, with his eyes, that he needs a change.