I sometimes get asked: what makes daddy happy? Or I’ll be talking to an adult baby or diaper lover and they’ll start quizzing me to find out what would please me. Hopefully in time they all learn that with me, in any case, the answer is simple: just be who you are.
There was a really interesting comment on one of my posts recently where WZB was talking about the different kinds of relationships for adult babies and their ‘dads’. He wrote that:
“A daddy or big bro is a strong – but more “loving” (in the standard sense) hand. Some ABDLs seem to prefer, exclusively, the soft side of things – diapers take them back to a simpler, happier time, let them relax and unwind, let them lower their defenses in a sort of passively passive manner, like what you describe (being nurtured or cuddled are great!)”
I relate to this description completely.
I know there are other ‘dads’ out there who like other things, and there are other ‘sons’ who want a dad who is more strict or aggressive or whatever. I love all of those dads and AB/DLs….it’s really wonderful. But those aren’t things that I want other than in the very lightest ways maybe.
I really feel that my job as a ‘dad’ is to help someone be the little one they are inside through which they can fully feel that softer, simpler baby or toddler.
What Makes Daddy Smile
I recently joined Twitter and asked whether anyone had ideas for a blog post and one of the responses was: what do AB/DLs do that make me smile (thanks @secrethusky!)
My answer is the same: I smile when I see a boy being, well, who they are.
Because when a ‘boy’ is himself, he’s bound to do all kinds of things that make me smile. There are the things that make me feel like the world is perfect, like changing or bath time.
And then there are the things that just make me grin, usually really simple things:
- Getting spaghetti on his face as he tries to feed himself in his high chair (memo to dad: don’t forget the bib next time)
- The way he looks lying asleep with a teddy bear in his arms
- The way he pulls his blanky closer to him as he’s watching cartoons
- A sudden crinkling sound and then turning to find him hugging my waist from behind
- Seeing his pacifier on the living room table (sometimes he doesn’t even need to be there to make me smile!)
- The look in his eyes that day when he saw Mickey Mouse at Disney World
- The way he blushes and looks down at his feet when he approaches me in wet pants (memo to dad: sometimes boys really really aren’t ready for potty training. Just be reassuring and get out the diapers)
- The way the bubbles get in his hair during bath time
- The way his body feels all floppy when I cuddle with him on the couch
- The way he smiles all funny looking with a paci in his mouth
- The way he makes me feel because he’s just being who he is.