Should a diaper lover or teen/adult baby wear diapers to school? Is it too dangerous to wear your diapers around friends?
The answer will depend on so many things, but my simple answer is ‘yes’ a boy should wear diapers to school. But before you think I’m asking you to do something that you can’t or shouldn’t, let me explain.
There are as many different ways to be a diaper lover as there are people who love them. Some people love to wear their diapers at special times, as a way to relax, or as part of an evening with someone.
For many people, diapers are like little vacations – a time to kick back, relax, and not have to worry. If you’re lucky, you may even have someone special in your life who joins you in those times by wearing themselves or, even better (or better in my mind anyways!) who will take care of you and change you.
For other people, however, diapers aren’t part of a vacation FROM life, they ARE a part of life. You might recognize yourself: someone for whom life feels lonely, less full, sad or anxious when you don’t have diapers in your life. Maybe your mood changes when you aren’t able to wear and you feel a funny gnawing feeling inside.
Or maybe it’s not just diapers – maybe you also need a blanky or pacifier or other little babyish things. When you have to act, dress and live like an adult you become moody or cranky.
For these people, diapers or being little are part of who you are. I’ve rarely met anyone who has had these feelings where they didn’t come back – they may go away for a while but eventually they seem to feel like life is emptier and they realize that being diapered again brings a sense of being complete.
Diapers as Part of Your Personal Expression
Now, there are LOTS of reasons why it might be impossible to wear diapers to school, university or college. Maybe you can’t afford them, or maybe you have really serious issues with your parents (the topic of another post).
But what I think is important is the question of whether it’s OK to express who you are.
In today’s world, your parents, teachers or the media are often telling you how to act or be. You’re supposed to conform, fit certain fads, follow certain trends, or be part of the ‘in crowd’.
But in an ideal world, we realize what the Internet and experience has shown us: that no matter how we express ourselves, there are people out there who understand, there are all kinds of styles and interests and loves. When we’re going about our daily lives, it’s easy to think that the only world that exists is the hallways of the school or our room at home. But there’s a wide world out there that is accepting of diversity and self-expression.
Just like someone from a different culture should feel proud of who they are, someone who is a diaper lover or adult baby should feel the same way – this is who you are, it’s part of you, and you can’t run from what’s inside anymore than you can run away from having red hair (well, at least not for long).
Diapers at School
I’d like to think that we’d be able to get to the point where people have a network of support and friends (whether online or in person) who will respect their choices and interests. In that kind of world, a boy would wear diapers to school.
They might not always wear the thickest diaper. They might not even use them. Maybe it’s as simple as a Goodnite under their jeans. Or training briefs and plastic pants. The important thing is that they feel secure that they are expressing a part of themselves in their life which is PART of their life – they’re a diaper boy and are proud to be one.
There can be challenges – gym class, say, or clothes that might be in a style where someone might spot the diaper sticking out above the waist of a pair of jeans, a bulge in the bum, or a crinkling sound.
But this isn’t about keeping things hidden: it’s about being who you are, even if you’re not flaunting it. You don’t need to walk around in a onesie to be true to yourself, but you don’t need to be scared to leave a part of yourself at home.
And wouldn’t you feel more secure with diapers on instead of underwear or boxers? I feel sad even thinking about the thin material of boxers and how insecure they seem.
Welcome a Son Home from School
If I had a ‘son’ and I was welcoming them home from a day at college or school, I’d give them a proud hug and pat on their diapered bum. I’d want them to know that every single day I was proud that they had decided to be, well, to be themselves.
If they needed a change it would be a very special tender and loving time. A reward, almost, for my ‘little one’ just being who he is.
And who knows, maybe his decision to wear his diapers to school will help someone else who DOES notice the crinkle sound (because he knows what to listen for!) and has the courage to wear himself.
And it’s my belief in THAT idea which would make me happy and full of love as I changed my son after another long day in class.