I’ve noticed in forums for adult babies and diaper lovers that there’s often a lot of discussion of where they hide their diapers, or where they USED to hide them, especially when they were younger or still lived with family. (These stories are almost as common as stories about buying the diapers in the first place!)
For the dad to the adult baby, the choice of diaper is an important responsibility – but where to STORE the diapers can be equally important.
I really think that in the ideal situation, the diapers should be stored in a visible place, there should be lots of them, and the storage space should be close to the change table or area so that there is a lingering scent of powder, baby oil and other smells. While there are lots of reasons that you might need to be discrete with diapers and have a locked closet, say, for the babying supplies, during times when you’re not worried about company coming over or you’re having extended periods of baby time with your little one you should take large stacks of diapers out of storage and put them in a visible place.
Your little one will feel reassured seeing the stacks of diapers. Judging by the forums, he may have spent a lot of time and many years needing to keep his diaper supplies hidden. While he may not have felt shameful, this process of hiding may have left him feeling like diapers aren’t a natural part of life. As his dad, you want to make sure that your son feels less inhibited by his diapers, that they feel natural to him, and that any resistance to using his diapers is removed.
When he sees a large stack of diapers it’s a reminder that he doesn’t have to worry about running out or about them being something to ‘hide’. Ideally, if there’s a selection of different kinds, he’ll also know that no matter what the mood or situation, his dad has a diaper for everything, whether for casual times with a light diaper or Pull-Up under his street clothes, or for sleep time in his crib, with a well-padded diaper giving lots of protection.
In addition to the diaper stacks, the packages they come in can also be a gentle reminder. Even for boys who don’t fit into Pampers anymore, a package of them placed near his stack can elicit a comforted or babyish feeling.
I am of the belief though that there can be too MUCH of a good thing. Having a shelf in the nursery with 100s of diapers can be excessive and some of them might be best in a closet somewhere (your boy will still go have a peek at his ‘super stash’ now and then). The changing and play space shouldn’t scream diapers, it should scream toddler or baby boy.