In the Adult Baby lifestyle there are the babies (more than people might imagine) and there are the dads and moms (more than I might know, but fewer than I can find!).
Now, I’ve long been interested in the AB/DL lifestyle – I was interested in diapers since I was a kid, and they were a part of several relationships with accepting boyfriends.
(Before I go on, please check the ‘about page‘ for a bit more about me – and about the general approach and rules of this site. One of the things I make note of is the use of the terms ‘dad’ and ‘boy’ or ‘son’ – as those in the AB/DL community know, this in no way refers to children but rather adults playing those roles.)
Over time, however, and because of one relationship in particular, I found that I was more interested in the ‘dad’ or parent side of diapers and babying – it was more fun to diaper someone than wear one (and I didn’t really enjoy BEING diapered by someone else), and it was definitely more fun to also baby someone else: whether something simple like holding and cuddling a guy in diapers, or further, like giving him a bottle or dressing him.
My principle relationship as a dad happened years ago, and I’ve wished that it had lasted longer, and have also wished that I could find that sort of trust and intimacy with someone where I could again be a dad to a son. This feeling comes and goes – it usually goes because of frustration or a feeling that it would be too hard to meet the right person. While I’ve tried forums and Web sites, nothing has ‘clicked’ or progressed past a few e-mails. Maybe it’s my fault, or maybe I just have too narrow a range in what I think would work.
I recently, however, have had a chance to meet someone on-line and this has quickly developed into an intense experience. It has re-opened my heart and mind to the challenges and beauty of this experience.
But.
One of the things I’ve found interesting is that I’ve been searching for more of a ‘dad’s perspective’: descriptions from others who have cared for someone, insight into how it made them feel, advice, or just general support. It’s true you can find some – often a ‘dad’ chiming in on a discussion board, say.
It’s part of the reason I decided to jot down a few notes here. Maybe this blog won’t go very far, or maybe I’ll stop posting – but maybe this record of some of my thoughts might be useful in some way. Or maybe I’ll discover that in being a dad, it’s about being strong and silent and that sharing our feelings and experiences just doesn’t fit the role.
One of the key difficulties for most “dads” is to gather up enough courage to ask their partner to be accepting of this kind of “father-son” relationship. Furthermore, many dominant partners may be unwilling to jeopardize an existing relationship with a loved one for their own desires. I am interested to hear about anyone who has approached their bf/gf with this issue and the ensuing result.